In this digital age, there are many ways to show someone we’re interested in them.
It can be through liking their photos on Instagram or leaving a comment. It can be through Snapchat.
Of course, it can be through texting, which is the most common.
How often should you text someone you’re interested in? At what point would it become “too often”?
Here’s How Often You Can Text Someone You’re Interested In:
There’s no hard and fast rule for texting someone you’re interested in. You can text that person as often as you want, but the content matters more. If you want to show interest through text, your messages should be about getting to know him or letting him know he’s on your mind.
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How Much Can You Text Someone if You’re Not Dating?
In this modern day and age, there should be no shame in making the first move. Texting him first shows that you’re taking the initiative and letting him know where you stand.
If that works out, you can text as often as you like – just make sure that he is still interested. Checking in on someone’s mood is the best way of knowing if you should text more or slow down.
If you want to be even bolder, you can try asking him out and see how it goes from there. If it all works well, you may be able to take the next steps going into the early stages of dating.
Otherwise, you should be able to tell early if he’s not interested.
If you’ve been taking the initiative and texting him often, but you only get one to two-word replies, or worse, no reply, then it means your efforts are just going to waste.
In this case, it should be a sign for you to move on and divert your attention elsewhere.
How Often Do You Text Someone You’re Casually Dating?
Communication is essential in any relationship, even when you’re just casually dating.
Texting is one of the best ways to keep in touch with someone. When casually dating someone, it’s okay to text him as often as you like.
However, do not overdo it.
There’s no hard and fast rule on how often you should text someone you’re casually dating because of the content of your messages and the quality of the matter of the text.
- Whenever you text him “good morning” at the start of each day, it tells him that he’s the first person you think about.
- Whenever you text him “good night” before you go to sleep, it sends him a strong message that he’s the last person you think of at the end of the day.
- When you text him in the middle of the day and ask him how his day is going or if he’s already had lunch, it shows that you care about him.
- Whenever you ask him questions about himself, his job, or his hobbies, it shows that you want to get to know him more.
Remember to Give Each Other Space
However, give him space if he needs it.
If he doesn’t text back immediately, he’s probably busy with work. Do not follow up with another text, as this may make you seem needy.
Instead, wait patiently for him to text you back. If he’s dating you, it means he’s already interested in you.
However, make sure to make each text message count by striking up meaningful conversations with him through text and by being open and honest.
How Often Should they Text You Back?
If they like you, then they will text you. If they’re dating you, it means that they already like you.
If you’re casually dating someone, they will text you back whenever they can.
This means that as long as they’re not busy, they will respond to your text as soon as possible. It’s that simple.
If you text a guy you’re dating, and he doesn’t text back right away, it usually means he’s busy. He could be caught up in a work task.
He could be rushing to meet deadlines on a project. He could be visiting family or spending time with friends.
Do not bombard him with text messages because this can turn him off. Just be patient and simply wait for him to text back.
How Much Can You Text Before Looking “Clingy” Or Desperate?
Texting someone because you’re interested in them should not be considered clingy, even if you text them often.
However, I do understand that constantly texting can make it worse when someone becomes uncomfortable. Therefore, don’t think of it as clingy or desperate but as whether or not you are adding or subtracting from the relationship.
Sometimes texting too much can be annoying or frustrating, especially if they don’t like texting. Some people prefer a phone call or to hang out in person and then to be left alone when they go home.
Therefore, they would probably prefer that you didn’t keep texting them, especially after spending time together. So, when you’re dating someone, it is okay to text him often.
If he does not respond within hours, it’s okay to send a follow-up text and check in on him to see how he’s doing. Just recognize that not everyone is looking for a constant conversation over text.
How Do You Know If You Send Too Many Texts?
Checking in on your partner to see how they are feeling about texting is a good way to avoid any confusion or hurt feelings.
- He may not like texting and prefer phone calls
- He may prefer texting only to make plans for hanging out in person
- He may prefer texting over calls and love texting all the time
Depending on your partner, your habits should reflect their preferences – and their habits yours.
If you love text, even while you’re at work, he may try to text you more, even if he doesn’t like it a lot. Likewise, you should be able to pull back on texting a to accomodate his preferences, too.
Finding that common middle-ground is the best way to ensure you aren’t overdoing it, so ask questions!
Find out what works and what doesn’t, and try to keep checking in with your partner.